Friday, November 16, 2018

Tempus Fudge-it

The purpose of this blog is to speed up time at the Shabbat table. Please print and share.
Sending deep sympathy to those suffering in Southern Israel and in Calfornia.


How+To+Make+A+Dali+Inspired+Decorated+Cake?format=1500wMost people we know are generally on-time.

(Most airlines, too.)

Some people we know are notoriously "always late".

Question 1 for your table - Do you know anyone who is always precisely on-time? How about someone who is always early? How does that fact affect your feelings about that person?

Question 2 - How does it feel when you are on time and the person you are meeting is also punctual?

Question 3 - Do always-late people usually miss their flights, or do they manage to be on time when it comes to travel? How do you explain someone being on-time for a plane, but late for every meeting?

When we moved back to the Bay Area in 2000, I started networking and making daily meetings from San Jose to Marin.

(Life lesson learned - don't do this in a leased vehicle.)

The first week on the job, I decided to repent of my past sins, overcome my habit of procrastination, and be punctual.

Life lesson learned: it wasn't that hard.

The outcome? Many people commented. They found it unusual for someone to be so punctual.

More important - it pleased them.

Question 4 - Were you ever embarrassingly late, but the person you were meeting was even later? How did that feel?

Question 5 - Could there be a down-side to being punctual?

Question 6 - What's worse, being late or not showing up at all?

Question 7 - Would a more spiritual person be more punctual (because they are concerned about other people) or less punctual (because their head is full of lofty thoughts and they don't want to be bound by pettiness)?



Shabbat Shalom

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Friday, November 09, 2018

One-and-t'Others & Skin-and-Blisters

The purpose of this blog is to leverage the dinner table rivalry. Please print and share.

Lisa v BartLast week I suggested asking at your table, Are you a Jew first or an ______ first (pick your nationality).

This week, a similar convsersation-starter, with a twist:

Are you a child first or a sibling first?

Now, before any only-child protests, let's talk for a moment about the word sibling. The modern meaning of "a person who shares one or both parents with me" is actually quite recent - only about a hundred years old.

The older meaning is any relative. But no one knows how it came into the English language and there are competing theories.

I suspect it comes from Hebrew: the SB root (or SV) has something to do with wisdom. The L is probably a truncation of EL which means God. So this person who torments me, who doesn't nourish me like a parent and I can't walk away from like a peer - why am I stuck with this relationship? Chalk it up to God's wisdom.

(Typical of the English to come up with a tongue-in-cheek word. Reminds one of the Cockney slang skin-and-blister for sister.)

So a sibling is basically a peer that you happen to be stuck with. Gotta remember their birthday, gotta invite them to your simchas, no matter how seldom you actually talk.

So back to today's question - are you the person you are primarily due to your parents, or primarily due to your siblings (again, as broadly defined as you want).

And should you wonder why it matters, I can think of two reasons.

1. Appreciation - the good that's in me came from somewhere (someone). I should thank them.
2. Change - my personality imperfections came from somewhere - if I can ID the source, it's so much easier to change myself.


Maybe you can think of more?

Shabbat Shalom


Friday, November 02, 2018

What Are You

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The purpose of this blog is to Jew-up the Friday night dinner table. Please print and share.

As you know, this weekly space generally avoids current events.

But sometimes they are unavoidable.

And as you know, this email tries to be more about questions than answers.

So.... I would like to suggest four related questions for your table:

Question 1 - What's more shocking:

That there are such hardboiled antisemites among us, or that one of them decided to act on his hatred?

Question #2 - What about you:

Would you call yourself a Jewish American or an American Jew?

[substitute other nationalities as needed, including Israeli]


Question #3 - What's the ideal:

Should we be striving to live as Jewish Americans or American Jews?


Question #4 - What about now:

When an American Amalek hunts down Jewish people with the mindset of an exterminator trying to clear his world of vermin, how does that impact your answer to Q2 and Q3?


Shabbat Shalom



Friday, October 26, 2018

What Chesed Did You Do?

The purpose of this blog is to get everyone's 2-bits at the Shabbat table. Please print and share.

Piece of 8OK, here is a pair of questions for your table that are sure to stir up discussion:

1. Why do parents always ask their kids, "What did you learn in school today?"
2. Why do kids hate this question?

While I eagerly await the results of your own dinner-table poll, here is my 2-bits, as my grandfather would have said.


(By the way, the reason 2-bits became the nickname for 25¢ is a complete tangent, but it's an interesting bit of triva. Don't rely on Google or you'll miss this one. [But you coudl read this and this.] Dollars used to be solid silver, with tremendous purchasing power. The most common silver dollar then is the one pictured here, the Spanish Piece of 8, aka Peso. This coin represented four days' labor for the average worker, not so convenient for small purchases. So they would cut it into 8 pieces or "bits". So 2-bits - a day's wage - meant a quarter-dollar.)

I suspect that the answer to question #1 is both genuine interest in the lives of our children, and a desire for them to appreciate what they accomplished.

And the answer to #2 may be because too often, kids have a hard time recalling what they learned. Learning is often accumulated in such small steps, and unless the teacher posts, discusses, summarizes and reviews a daily "learning objective", it can be hard for a student on her own to articulate it.

But....

I recently discovered with our almost-eight-year-old that a slightly different question can get a consistent daily engagement with her father:

"What chesed did you do today?"

In case she hesitates, I prompt a bit further: "Did you help anyone? Did you play or sit with someone who was all alone?"

Now, the third question for your table is Why does she respond so well to this question?

Again, I can give you my own theory, but feel free to disagree.

My theory is that doing an act of chesed is a complete, self-contained accomplishment, and it feels complete. In contrast, whatever you learned today may be such a small increment toward a long-term mastery that it doesn't feel like such an accomplishment.

Fourth question for your table: Imagine you got a phone call from God. Not a prank call, it's the real thing! The voice on the other end proves itself to be God with all kinds of knowledge that no human could ever know about you.

So you're in the middle of this conversation when the doorbell rings. You peek out the window and see that it's a poor person collecting tzedaka. You can't do both - you cannot stay on the phone and help the poor person. You must decide - talk to God and get all of your questions answered, or hang up and go help the poor person.

What would you do?

Shabbat Shalom



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Friday, October 19, 2018

How to Lose.... Wait!

The purpose of this blog is to turn Friday night dinner into a valuable asset. Please print and share.
Happy birthday shouts-out to Lisa + Susan in SF!


alarm-clock-with-tight-beltOne of my favorite motivational videos is "The Time You Have (in Jellybeans)".

He starts with 28,835 jellybeans, representing the days in a lifetime of 79 years.

Then he starts removing jellybeans from the pile, to represent the time we spend in childhood, sleeping, eating, shopping, work, commuting, watching TV, chores, taking care of others' needs, etc.

He ends up with a small pile of jellybeans representing free time - time for enjoying life, self-fulfillment etc.

And he asks: What are you going to do with this small bit of time that remains after you have done all those other activities?

In my opinion, there is something very Jewish and yet something very un-Jewish about this message.

First question for your table: What do you think?

Second question: Imagine you were sitting on a bus next to someone with a bag full of dollar bills.

Every minute or so, he reaches into the bag, pulls out a dollar, and drops it out the window.

You are watching this peculiar behavior for awhile, until he appears to run out of money.

Then he turns to you and asks, "May I borrow a dollar?"

What do you say?

In the video, an efficient person may notice something he left out of his jellybean count: time that is wasted.

Wasted not because a person's standing in line at airport security, but because they're standing in line at airport security without a book.

Wait-time.

Our life is filled with little time-nuggets of wait-time. These are opportunities to learn and to grow.

But we totally waste most of these .

3rd Q for your table: If someone asked you how to use their wait-time for a purpose, what would you advise?



"If you love life, then love time, for that is the stuff that life is made of." (Ben Franklin)


Shabbat Shalom
 
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Friday, October 12, 2018

But Are We Awake?

The purpose of this blog is to restore spirited conversation to the Shabbat table. Please print and share.
In honor of someone very special's birthday today.... Happy birthday, Mom!
And a big mazal tov to Shalev and Rocky on your wedding!


two-candles-in-handsA Jew I know just lost his non-Jewish mother.

Unlike the Jewish custom of quick burial, this Catholic family will not have the funeral for several weeks.

First 2 questions for your table - Have you ever been to a wake? Do you know why they call it that?

(No, it isn't because they hope the deceased will wake up.)

Once upon a time, I attended one. It wasn't Catholic, as far as I recall. They just called it that. It was in a funeral home. The deceased was a young man - 18 years old - who had drowned while swimming with friends in a rural swimming hole.

It was incredibly sad. But seeing him there, embalmed with makeup to make him look like he was merely sleeping, somehow made it more painful, to me.

Next 2 questions: Why don't Jews do embalming? Why do we hurry to bury our dead?

We obviously love life, we don't love death.

But we don't ignore it. We even have a beracha to say upon the death of a loved one.

Question 5 for your table - Why don't we like to talk about it? Why does it make us so uncomfortable?


Some say that the answer is because we live in a culture that really does glorify the physical aspect of existence (the human body and its pleasures) and we have all been trained from a very young age to  become deeply attached to that vitality.

Put it this way: the Olympics and Superbowl get a bit more attention than the World Chess Championship.

(Although it's always encouraging to see the media pay attention to the newest Nobel Prizes.)

Others point out that even spiritual people have trouble with death. They argue that we expect God to be good and loving and kind and taking a loved one away is painful and therefore unkind and that's a contradiction so we'd rather ignore it than grapple with the contradiction.

What say you?

According to the Talmud, there are 903 types of death.

(And if anyone cares, it even tells us which are the most and the least painful.)

Question 6 for your table - What would you say are the best and worst ways to die?

Question 7 - If the Talmud is going to talk about 903 ways to die, why doesn't it also tell us how many ways there are to live?



Shabbat Shalom

 
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Friday, October 05, 2018

How to Fly High

The purpose of this blog is to raise spirits at the Shabbat table. Please print and share.
In memory of  Jeremy Dossetter (Yermiyahu Matan), zichrono livracha, whose first yahrzeit is observed tonight and tomorrow.



Jeremy-surfNow that the holidays are officially over, is it back to business-as-usual, or has something changed?

The other night, my driver-in-training daughter and I are out for a spin, trying to get her to her 60 hours.

We decide to make our destination a local drugstore.

There's always something you need at a drugstore.

No lines - looks like we were the only customers.

Now, if we could just avoid the employees, we'd have it made....

So we arrive at the checkout with our items. The employee on duty is a young woman.


As we are stepping up to the counter, this employee is tearing open a package of cookies. As I am reaching to place my items on the counter, she quickly rips two or three cookies from the package and stuffs them all in her mouth at once.

This does not occur while her back is turned to us, nor her side.

She is facing us and is not even three feet away.

Now, this account could remain a tale of mere manners and professionalism.

But it gets worse.

Maybe I should keep my mouth shut, but I feel like I should say something.

So as lighthearted and friendly as possible, with a smile, I say, "You know, those aren't very healthy."

Her answer (once she finishes swallowing, give her credit for that): "I know, but, hey, you gotta die sometime, so who cares if it's a little sooner rather than later."

She has stunned us into silence.

Back in the car, my daughter has a comment.

First question for your table: What would you guess she says?

(She said she was sad for this woman who evidently felt that she had very little to live for.)

Second question: What would you have said (if anything)?

Third question: Is this woman to be praised for 'living in the moment'?

As noted above, tonight is the first yahrzeit of our beloved student and friend Jeremy, whose helicopter went down off the coast of Molokai, Hawaii.

Jeremy exemplified both living in the moment and living with a sense of purpose. He would have been the last person to knowingly endanger his life because he loved life and had big meaningful goals.

I believe he saw this world as both a beautiful artwork and a blank canvas on which to paint the work of art called "My Life".

The best way we can honor him is to be inspired by him. May his memory be for a blessing.

Speaking of Jeremy and painting, here's a final question for your table.

This is the kind of philosophical question he enjoyed discussing when we studied Torah together via Skype.

Imagine a painter makes a picture of a natural scene, with trees and people and so on.

5 minutes after the he completes the painting, you and I look at that person in the picture. I ask you, “How old would you say that man is in the painting?”
 
You scrutinize it and decide that he looks like he’s 50 years old.
 
“Wrong! He’s only 5 minutes old!”
 
Who’s right?


Shabbat Shalom

PS - The image above was Jeremy's Skype image, a self-portrait I believe, and yes it is clickable.

 
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Friday, September 28, 2018

He Sad, She Sad

The purpose of this blog is to reveal shades of gray at the Shabbat table. Please print and share.

he-sheThis week, a couple hard questions for your table.

Let's start with a definition - ask your table: What's irony?

Oh, never mind, that's too hard. 
 
Let's move on to #2, a Talmudic question for your table:

Is it possible for a plaintiff and defendant to contradict each other 100%, yet both be telling the truth?

I'm not asking if it's likely. Or even plausible. Is it possible.

After everyone chimes in, tell them this old one about the rabbi and rebbetzin counseling a couple.

The wife speaks her piece, and the rabbi says, "You're right."

Then the husband speaks, and the rabbi says, "You're right."

Then the Rebbetzin says, "Can they both be right?" And the Rabbi says, "You're right too!"

Many people cannot see life this way.

They can't see that two contradictory "truths" can both be true. It's either black or it's white. It cannot be both black and white.

The ability to hold two contradictory truths in our heads at the same time is the basis of Jewish humor, and I think it is the root of what is called "comic irony".

This is why Isaac, the progenitor of Israel, is named "Yitzchak" - "he shall laugh".

We apparently developed this talent through millennia of Torah study.

(With occasional periods of suffering, requiring a coping mechanism.)

Now, what I just wrote two sentences ago may spark some controversy. After all, how many of the 80 percent of American comics who are Jewish ever studied the Torah?

Maybe 2?

But it doesn't matter. An ounce of Torah study in one generation will cause a pound of irony for generations to come.

If you personally possess this ability, and you are not a Torah scholar, maybe you descend from Torah scholars....

So now, if she says X and he says Y, what are the truth possibilities?

X - and he's wrong/lying;

Y - and she's wrong/lying;

XY - and they're each trapped in their own perspective.

or . .

Z (an unnamed alternative) - maybe ______? (fill in the blank)

Speaking of Torah scholars, next week is Simchat Torah when we roll the scroll back to the beginning.

I overheard a conversation this morning between two nice Jewish guys.

One said, "Simchat Torah is my least favorite holiday. I just want to get it over with as quickly as possible."

The other said, "I love it."

"What do you love about it?"

"All year long I've been studying the weekly parasha. On Simchat Torah, I'm celebrating completing it."

"How often do you study it?"

"A little bit every day."

"Wow, you must have tremendous discipline to do that."

"I started a few years ago with English only. Eventually I started reading the Hebrew too."

"Hmm...."


Happy Sukkot

and

Shabbat Shalom

and

Chag Sameach


 
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Friday, September 21, 2018

Plain Vanilla for a Change?

The purpose of this blog is to challenge tastes at the Shabbat table. Please print and share.

vanillaL'shana tova - Happy 5779.

(Happy New Year has the same afterglow as a birthday - you're allowed to say happy birthday to someone up to a month late.)

One of my resolutions is to try to expand my culinary horizons.

Thank Trader Joe's for making it so easy.

And if that link isn't proof enough, if you've been reading this space for long enough, you know that I'm a chocolate kind of guy.

(Although I admit, I've never shelled out $300 a box.)

Question for chocoholics: Does tasting new varieties of chocolate count as expanding your culinary horizons?

Maybe it's time to give chocolate's evil twin a chance.

I refer, of course, to vanilla.

Could we do with vanilla what we did with chocolate?

I.e., inspiration, perspiration and invention of the next up-and-coming beverage phenomenon?

(The chocolate invention is code-named the Hot Seinfeld.)

It is touted to have some appealing health benefits (which don't beat chocolate of course, but that's OK).

But as soon as I go to the baking cupboard (inspiration) to fetch the vanilla and start testing it with everything (perspiration) it becomes apparent that any invention is going to have to overcome a formidable challenge.

It turns out there's a reason why vanilla comes in those tiny little bottles.

Vanilla, like chocolate, has lost its innocence.

Real vanilla is actually quite scarce.

To quote National Geographic:


Vanilla is the second most expensive spice in the world (after saffron) because its production is so labor-intensive. Vanilla grows as a clinging vine, reaching lengths of up to 300 feet, from which sprout pale greenish-yellow flowers, about four inches in diameter. These-in Mexico, vanilla’s native habitat-are pollinated by melipona bees and, occasionally, by hummingbirds. Each flower remains open for just 24 hours, after which, if not pollinated, it wilts, dies, and drops to the ground.

It gets much more complicated than that, resulting in a product so scarce that 99 percent of the "vanilla" products don't actually contain vanilla.

Vanilla extract = good
Vanilla flavor = bad
Vanillin = ugly

Read those labels!

(Fun fact: while cookies like Nilla Wafers are typically 100% artificially flavored, by law in the US, vanilla ice cream must contain 100% natural vanilla.)

So how come they don't make vanilla bars like chocolate bars?


The best I could find are these Health Warrior bars.

One solution is to get your own beans and make your own.

So the perspiration goes on. In the meantime, if you have a favorite vanilla dish or recipe, please send it along.

(Hey, while we're at it, any suggestions for gourmet chocolate?)

Now your wondering how all this plain vanilla talk could lead to a dinner table conversation.

Here's a question for your table: How much effort should we put into making our food tasty?


Shabbat Shalom

and

Happy Sukkot


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Friday, September 14, 2018

Why Me???

The purpose of this blog is to trigger even deeper thought at the Shabbat table. Please print and share.

exasperatedL'shana tova.

For the past couple weeks, we've been encouraging everyone to try the new 40 Meditations for the High Holidays.


And last week we gave you a puzzler for your table that I'm wondering if anyone figured out (?)

This week, two emotional encounters that occurred on Wednesday and Thursday of this week which may shed a little extra light on Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur.

Encounter 1, Wednesday:

On Wednesday, I received the following email from a rabbi I know:

I was leading a great discussion on Rosh Hashana.
Then one woman began to speak. She said 'I'm not religious but I'm a good person. But I'm appalled at these Orthodox families, who go through red lights, yak on their cell while driving, act rude, etc. They're ruining the neighborhood, etc."

Clearly, she was tanking the whole discussion. Other people raised their hands, and I was hoping the subject would get changed. Wrong - they started piling on. I did what I thought was right to get things back on a positive note without shutting her down and/or hurting her feelings. I'm not sure I had the most elegant solution. I really want to know what others would have done.

 

Question for your table: What should the rabbi have done?

My instinct:


“I feel the same way! Nothing burns me more than seeing someone wearing one of these [points to yarmulke] doing something obviously wrong. And while I would personally guess that the average Orthodox person is more careful about following the law, not speaking gossip, etc., it just goes to show you – nobody’s perfect. The question is – for you and for me and for the Orthodox person who ran the red light – what can you honestly improve about yourself this year??


Encounter 2, Thursday:

This was a call from someone who only calls me when his marriage is on the rocks.

It took us over an hour to get to the heart of what was bothering him, but we got there.

It was this:

Why is God doing this to me? Why would he want me to be married to a woman who is selfish and unable to sympathize with me?

So I guess the first question for your table is, What would you say to such a guy?

In case you're interested, here's what I told him.

Our tradtion teaches us that, while each of us has a different mission, we all have the same purpose.

That purpose is to become "perfect" - or Godly, or holy.

Therefore, everything that happens to us is custom designed to help us achieve our purpose.

For example, that person who tries your patience was put in your life in order to teach you patience.

Some challenges can teach us perseverance, others faithfulness, others gratitude, others calmness.

The only way to learn the lesson is to think about it. That's what these 10 Days of Awe are for.

It also really helps to try to work on changing only one habit at a time (see the 40 Meditations sheet).

Question 2 for your table: Whom do we expect and want to be an egotist?

The answer of course is a baby ("feed me, change me!").

But for adults, that latent egotism is the root of most of our imperfections. It was very healthy when we were babies, but....

Now you can understand why one of the three main customs during these 10 Days of Awe is to give extra tzeddaka.

If life is made of time, and time is money, then giving some of your hard-earned money to others is giving a part of yourself.

Hard to do? That may be a sign of how good it is for you. No pain, no gain.



Shabbat Shalom

and

G'mar ketiva tova — may you have a good inscription (i.e., in the Book of Life)!


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Friday, September 07, 2018

Every Good Boy Does Fine

The purpose of this email is to trigger memory and thought at the Shabbat table. Please print and share.

dont-forget-fingerLast week we offered you the new 40 Meditations for the High Holidays.

All that you need to do is send an email.

This week, a new 1-pager for Rosh Hashana. See below....


First, here's a puzzle that some people at your table will get right away, others will say, "Wait, wait, don't tell me...!" and others will say, "I have no clue."

Can you complete the missing line?

1. Good boys do fine always.
2. All cows eat grass.
3. Every good boy does fine.
4. ___________________


I hope no one is griping at me about not including girls or transgenders or post-genders or whomever, or preaching about the role of 1,000,000,000 cows in global warming, at least not until you hear the answer:

4.    Face.           

OK, for those who are still scratching their heads, these four phrases are
mnemonics to help remember the notes on bass clef (GBDFA - lines; ACEG - spaces) and treble clef (EGBDF - lines; FACE - spaces).

But....!

Ask your table: What does this have to do with Rosh Hashana???!!!


If they give up, remind them about the Simanim.

Such as apples in honey, pomegranate, etc.

What does the word "simanim" mean?

A: neumonic!

So here's the real clincher - what's a
mnemonic and why do we have them on our dinner table on Rosh Hashana?


Shabbat Shalom
L'shana tova u'metuka - wishing you a good and sweet year!


PS - The new 1-pager mentioned above is this year's updated Rosh Hashana Simanim (translated and transliterated). send me an email or download it from our teacher's and parent's resource site, http://jewishspirituality.net.

PPS - Yes, the image above is clickable.

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Friday, August 31, 2018

In Search of Your Inner Great-Grandparent

The purpose of this blog is to get things ticking at the Shabbat table. Please print and share.


pocketwatchAll faucets become leaky. — Ancient Chinese proverb

OK, so it's not so ancient and not so Chinese.

Maybe it's only true chez Seinfeld.

But every leaky faucet makes me think that Chinua Achebe was right.

The dairy sink's leak had been easy enough - remove the handle, pop in a new washer, cleaned up in under 10 minutes.

But last night's struggle with the other side was meatier. I felt like I'd met my match and it's name is Moen which rhymes with moan. It was one of those DIY jobs that gets you rationalizing: Is a leaky faucet really such a big deal?

Or: Can't this wait until after Rosh Hashana?

So....(for your table), What does matter before Rosh Hashana?

This is a follow-up to
last week's question, "Why does Rosh Hashana matter anyway?"

You've had a whole week to think about it. Ready for an answer?


If statisticians are to be believed, there's a high probability that everyone reading this (or hearing it read) has or had 2 parents.

(Maybe in this day and age I should say "at least" 2 parents.)

And I'm no statistician, but I'm fairly certain that these odds extend to having 4 grandparents.

I'm even willing to bet that you have (or had) 8 great-grandparents.

OK, let's pause right there.

I've never met anyone who could pull this one off:

Raise your hand if you can name your 8 great-grandparents and tell one interesting thing about each of them.

If you happen to be the one-in-a-million who can do that, then extend it back to your 16 great-great-grandparents.

At some point most humans fade into the background. Even those lucky enough to have children eventually become someone's forgotten great-grandparent.

And don't assume that there will even be a digital record of your life.

Maybe you'll be lucky enough to die with sufficient drama for them to display one of your possessions in a museum.

(I hope you're clicking on all the links as you read - they are all quite interesting.)


Bottom line - there are two proverbial books open on Rosh Hashana.

What's the secret to being written in the Book of Life?

Come up with a reason why your life is going to matter for at least another year.

Friendly suggestion: you might want to get a copy of this year's new 40 Meditations for the High Holidays....

One day you'll be at best a distant, remote, faint memory. How are you going to create a legacy?



Shabbat Shalom
 

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Friday, August 24, 2018

40 Meditations

The purpose of this blog is to create some forward-thinking at the Shabbat table. Please print and share.

RH survival kitQuestion for your table: What's the most important way to prepare for Rosh Hashana?

Last night I attended a lecture where the rabbi suggested the answer to the question goes like this:

1. The most important thing we do on Rosh Hashana and Yom Kippur is lots more prayers than the rest of the year.

2. Ergo, the most important preparation would be to study the prayers, or prepare somehow for that experience.

Hmmm... is he speaking my language?

Last week I mentioned the old favorite,
25 Questions for the High Holidays.

This week, we offer you an expanded and improved version for 2018:

40 Meditations for the High Holidays.

- 28 to prepare for Rosh Hashana
- 5 for Rosh Hashana
- 7 for Yom Kippur

.... still on a single page.


For a free copy, send an email.

And if you want more than a single page to change your High Holidays for the better, try clicking on the image above.

Question #2 for your table: Why does Rosh Hashana matter anyway?


Shabbat Shalom
 

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