Yesterday I met a man who told me he was having trouble making a major choice in his life, and he was troubled because he wasn't sure WHY he was having such trouble.
Here's a simple question for your table:
Do you ever feel like you have too many choices?
Barry Schwartz thinks that more choices often lead to more misery. A video and link to his book are below.
In a nutshell, Barry would ask you:
Are you a "satisficer" or a "maximizer"?
A satisficer is a person who chooses a product or service that is "good enough".
A maximizer is a person who is always trying to get the "best".
A satisficer is usually happy with their choice.
A maximizer isn't happy and often regrets what they bought.
Try to apply this question to five things you've purchased recently.
Question #2 - how does this model apply to things we create?
There is a line in the Torah that unfortunately few people know about. It says that it's a mitzvah to act with happiness, with connectedness, with joy, without exception.
Question #3 - That seems like a high bar - how can a person get there?
PS - Here's Barry:
And here's his book: http://tinyurl.com/paradoxofchoicebook
(If you haven't seen RH videos 1+2, they are here: Rosh Hashana video #1....Rosh Hashana video # 2.)
AND.... some Rosh Hashana links....
1. Download my free "24 Questions to Think About Before Rosh Hashana". Here's the link.
2. Get your very own shofar before it's too late!.
3. Our four favorite honey dishes which make great gifts. Here's the link.