Friday, December 29, 2023

Gezundheit!

Table Talk from the desk of Rabbi Alexander Seinfeld
December 29-30, 2023 • 18 Teves 5784 • Vayechi (Gen 47-50). 
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In memory of Pinchas ben Meir HaLevy z'l whose yahrzeit is tonight.

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Here's an opening question for your table: Did you ever wonder why we bless someone who sneezes? What's up with that?

It appears to be a universal custom: see Gezundheit in 80 languages / Berlitz.com.

After everyone ponders that question, you might want to share this interesting midrash about the origin of gezundheit.

Once upon a time, sneezing was a bad, bad omen.

People didn't get sick before they died. They just sneezed and died. 

So sneezing was burned into our collective psyche as a potential sign of imminent death.

Along comes Jacob (Yaakov), the ultimate Patriarch. He wants to buck the trend. He wants to end his life not with a blessing from others but with a blessing to others. He wants to give his children a final testament. He wants to be able to say goodbye with dignity.

Being that he's a prophet - he and God were, you know, "like this."

So he asks for a change in the natural order - that there should be the possibility of some warning - like sickness - prior to death, to give him the chance to say a proper goodbye. 

And perhaps to prepare mentally for death?

Once he is granted that request, that new way of dying becomes part of the natural order. 

Illness became a blessing and death became dignified.

One more question for your table: If you could choose the circumstances of your own death (hopefully not for a long, long time!), how would you want it to be? 


Shabbat Shalom,


Alexander Seinfeld


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Friday, December 22, 2023

Lazy Days?

Table Talk from the desk of Rabbi Alexander Seinfeld
December 22-23, 2023 • 11 Teves 5784 • Vayigash (Gen 44-47). 
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Lazy Days?

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Opening question for your table: Who knows what major event occurred last night at 10:30 pm EST?

Give up? Here's a hint: it was celestial...

Before we reveal the answer, here's a story.

This past Sunday, I received a surprise and very brief phone call from a certain rabbi. It went like this:

— I just want to thank you!
— You're welcome! For what?
— Thanks to you, for the first time in many decades, I didn't eat a single donut on Chanukah — and I didn't miss it at all!


Wow, I kvell.

You see, outreach to rabbis is a part of our strategy to correct the course of the great ship of Jewish food culture. Here in Baltimore, a generous donor sponsored gifting copies to 50 local rabbis and school principals. 

(If you would like to foster a similar program in your community, send me an email.)

So last Friday, after faithfully sending your Table Talk email (about not letting Chanukah end - remember?), your Faithful Correspondent hopped in the car and delivered copies of Body & Soul to local rabbis and principals with a humble request: please 
consider choosing at least one way to publicly and consistently be a role model for this mitzvah.

Now, I know that a few rabbis are on this weekly email list, but to those who are not Jewish leaders, what's your role and responsibility?

Let's circle back to the first question above – what momentous celestial event occurred last night?

The answer is winter solstice - when the sun finally stops retreating to the south and starts migrating north again. Which means we're currently at the shortest day of the year up here and the longest day Down Under.

And in six months, we'll be at summer solstice - the longest day of the year.

The solstice inspires me to ask you this question, designed to stimulate your thoughts about your own response and responsibility.

Which of those two solstice days would you say is lazier? Do you feel lazier during the colder, longer nights, or during the warmer, longer days? 

I know at least one person's answer: also on Sunday this week, I asked someone I know to be an avid cyclist  what he does for exercise during the winter? Answer: nothing. He'll go literally months without exercise, until it warms up again. 

As I've said in a recent Instagram and video, sometimes slowing down is anti-lazy. But at other times (
longer version) we perhaps need to push ourselves.

Final question for your table - what's the right balance?



Shabbat Shalom,


Alexander Seinfeld



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Friday, December 15, 2023

Don't Let Chanukah End!

Table Talk from the desk of Rabbi Alexander Seinfeld
December 15-16, 2023 • 4 Teves 5784 • Mikeitz (Gen 41-44). 
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Here's a three-pete of the theme of "learning from everyone"...

(We began two weeks ago with Christopher Hitchens and last week added the presidents of Harvard, MIT and Penn.)

This week: the dastardly Greeks!

First question for your table, What can we learn from the Greeks?

Today is of course the climactic eighth day of Chanukah - "Zos Chanukah" - when we can lock in the potentiality of Rosh Hashanah, Yom Kippur, Sukkot which are all "sevens" at the level of Simchas Torah which is an "eight"....

What in the world does that mean, you ask? 

There is a big myth about Chanukah that it's about our triumph over Hellenism. 

Judaism good, Hellenism bad. We won, they lost, let's eat latkes.

Wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong, wrong....

Hellenism is not only good, it's necessary

Here's a good Jewish vocab term to share with your table: hidur - pronounced "hee-dure".

It means beautification.

There is a mitzvah to do every mitzvah with a hidur. That is, to do it in a beautiful way. When you light Menorah, use the nicest menorah you can afford. When you give tzedakah, give it with a smile and kind word. When you build a guest room, make it handicap accessible. 

Get the picture? This is the way Jews incorporates the seven into our eightness.

Don't shun the seven, let it shine - but don't let the seven (the physical beauty) be your end, it's an agent to achieve the eight (the spiritual purpose of every mitzvah). 

Challenge question for your table: Name one mitzvah that you do every day that you could do with more hidur? 


Happy Zos Chanukah and

Shabbat Shalom,


Alexander Seinfeld




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Friday, December 08, 2023

Poison Ivy?

Table Talk from the desk of Rabbi Alexander Seinfel
December 8-9, 2023 • 26 Kislev 5784 • VaYeishev (Gen 37-40). 
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Mein Kontext
Do you remember last week when I quoted the controverisal Mr. Hitchens — because "a wise person learns from everyone" (Talmud).

On that theme, here's an opening question for your table: 

What can we learn from the presidents of Harvard, MIT and Penn?

Hat-tip to Rep. Elise Sefanik 
holding three Ivy League college presidents' feet to the fire.

(Yes, I know that MIT isn't an Ivy, but it might as well be.)  

But here's the follow-up questions I wish she had asked:

If a group of students dressed up like the KKK and marched through campus chanting for black women to be lynched, would that be allowed, prohibited, or would it depend on context?

What if they chanted for women to be raped, 
would that be allowed, prohibited, or would it depend on context?

What if they called for the destruction of Asians, or Arabs or any other group in the world besides Jews?


(It's also too bad they didn't call in many other college presidents who should be held accountable for blatant antisemitism on campus from Yale to UNC and everywhere i.

Maybe we should learn from Harvard President Claudine Gay and take a peek at some context.

In my first job after college I was surrounded by all kinds of Christians — Baptists, Methodists, Mormons, Presbyterians, Seventh Day Adventists and even a few Witnesses. I remember being struck by the seriousness and sincerity of these folks' faith - they studied their religious texts, believed deeply, and carried their faith openly wherever they went. Their religiosity was a far cry from the Judaism I had grown up with, which was joyful ritual, but very much limited to those rituals. I certainly can't recall my parents or any adults every discussing how the Torah might inform business ethics etc., let alone attending regular Torah study.

It seems to me that the great mistake of Hamas's non-Moslems supporters is the very common human fallacy known as projecting: "I assume that you must be more-or-less similar to me. All humans are basically good, and if we give you freedom and dignity, you'll stop fighting."

A liberal who projects liberal values onto others despite evidence to the contrary simply cannot believe that there are actually people in this world who are that evil; Hamas must be a legitimate political struggle, not a religious-ideological one. It cannot be that these Hamas guys - mimicing their patron, Iran - really mean it when they say that they intend to make the Land of Israel Judenrein and from there lead a worldwide Islamic movement to convert or kill every non-Moslem human being on the planet.

Their statements and actions are 100 percent consistent with the proposition that they actually believe this, and any peaceful offers they make are actually a strategem of deception or taqiya toward their stated goal. 

For the Harvard president, the possibilty that Hamas really wants to destroy Harvard and its faculty and students (unless they convert to Islam of course) is so crazy an idea and so remote a possibility that it's easy to dismiss and just regard this as hyperbole in a poitical struggle.

Easy to say when the rockets can't reach you... yet...

(In case you didn't hear, they appear to be receiving weapons from their buddies in North Korea. Can you imagine what could be unleashed on the world were the Palestinians to have their own sovereign state?)

There were an estimated 30,000 Hamas fighters at the start of this war. That's a about 1.5 percent of the Gaza population. If that rate of conversion to terrorism were applied to worldwide Islam, we'd be looking at nearly 30 million committed terrorists worldwide. That's a lot of people who could do a lot of damage. Even 1/10 of that is frightening. Was Hitchens right, that "the worst is yet to come?"

So then, now what? Wither Harvard? 

Final q
uestion for your table: Are these elite college presidents morally vacant? Antisemitic? Brain-washed? All of the above? 


Happy Chanukah and

Shabbat Shalom,


Alexander Seinfeld


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Friday, December 01, 2023

Was Hitchens Right?

Table Talk from the desk of Rabbi Alexander Seinfeld
December 1-2, 2023 • 19 Kislev 5784 • VaYishlach (Gen 32-36). 
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The late British author Christopher Hitchens had a take on antisemitism that you rarely hear.

Hitchens was beloved by many because he was very smart.

But smart obviously doesn't mean right, and some may dislike my quoting him. His strength of distilling a nuanced and complex into its essence often blurred or outright ignored important distinctions and often asserted controversial opinions as established fact.

(For instance, he apparently never read his contemporary compatriot rhyming namesake Kenneth Kitchen's essential book.)

But in the spirit of the Talmudic value of learning from everyone - here is a quotation that in itself is great material for a Shabbat table discussion.

In 2007 Hitchens said,


If the Nazarine preacher from Galilee really existed, there's no question whom he met first: the Jewish People; he came from their tradition. If the prophet Mohammed really ever existed, the first encounter he had was with Jewish people. The Jews took a look at both of these guys and said, "No, this is not the Messiah, this is not the Redeemer, we reject him."

Do you suppose they're ever going to be forgiving for it? Of course not, of course not. There isn't a Christian or a Muslim in the world (the serious kind) who wouldn't give everything they owned for some face-time with either Jesus or Mohammed. It would have to be the thing they most wanted to do. They must want it the same as I would like to meet Shakespeare or George Elliot. It must be the most important thing to them. And only one people - the same in both cases - met their false prophet. And in both cases they turned away and said, "This isn't genuine." You think that's going to be forgiven? No. Do you think this has led to a huge go-round of violence and heresy-hunting and fascism and genocide? Yes. Do you think it's over yet? Better not believe that. The worst is yet to come. They're never going to forgive it.  


(Here is a 23-minute clip of his speech at UCLA where he speaks about antisemitism and related topics. Here is a 2011 article he wrote for the Hannah Arendt Center at Bard College.)

There you have it. For your table: Was Hitchens right?

Second question: Does his take on antisemitism have anything to say about Chanukah?

Shabbat Shalom,

and Happy Chanukah!


Alexander Seinfeld

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Thursday, November 23, 2023

A Jewish Thanksgiving?

Table Talk from the desk of Rabbi Alexander Seinfel
November 23-25, 2023 • 12-15 Kislev 5784 • VaYeitzei (Gen 29-31). 
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First of all, if you missed the short video diary of my trip to Israeli, please click here.

(Note that there are several videos, you need to scroll down).

Second, by popular demand, once again we have a special video Table Talk for Thanksgiving


You can watch this year's edition here.


(In addition to sharing the video with your family, you can show your own thanks by forwarding it to everyone you love of course...)



Shabbat Shalom,


Alexander Seinfeld




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Thursday, November 16, 2023

Who's the Show For? (and Who's the Chauffeur)

Table Talk from the desk of Rabbi Alexander Seinfeld
November 17-18, 2023 • 5 Kislev 5784 • Toldos (Gen 25-28). 
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Happy Birthday shout-out to Moshe W - another year older, another year wiser!


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Remember that koala bear last week?

I'm happy to report that this week he has found a new home: the loving arms of a refugee child from southern Israel.

Many of the children and all of their parents asked me thank all the Jews around the world who sent them these gifts of love — 
stuffed animals, toys and activities.

The children were just so purely grateful for the gifts and activities.

The parents told me and are still telling me that the most important part of the gift was the thought behind it - which generated the following reciprocal thought: "There truly are Jewish people far away who care so much for me even though they don't know me."

If you think about it, that's the perfect antidote to, "There are people out there who hate me even though they don't know me."

(I have already emailed most or all who gave onymously (yes I invented that word) their names but obviously couldn't thank anyone who contributed anonymously, of which there were many.)

To everyone, it has been a honor to be your messenger to these wonderful sweet, gentle families. Not only were the toys and games all used, so were the extra funds that you sent, in order to supplement as needed.

Most of the toys and games have indeed been given to refugees in this hotel. The small surplus from this week are going to be distributed at other hotels housing refugees.

Some of you have asked me about the prospects for they themselves coming on a solidarity trip. Yes, come. With or without a specific agenda. Just being here and interacting with people, spending some money - these are huge gestures of solidarity. 

Or don't come, but keep up the vociferous action and towards your local and national governments. These are also huge statements of solidarity.

The Washington rally is an obvious example...

Or is it not?

Here's a question for your table: Who was the most important audience of the Washington rally - the US Government, Israelis, or ourselves?



Shabbat Shalom from Jerusalem,

Alexander Seinfeld


PS - I'm continuing to post short updates on Instagram.



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Friday, November 10, 2023

How Do You Know If Your Life is Meaningful?

Table Talk from the desk of Rabbi Alexander Seinfeld
November 10-11, 2023 • 27 Mar Cheshvan 5784 • Chayei Sarah (Gen 23-25). 
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That title is a great Q for your table.

Do you need to wait for your funeral to see what people say about you?


I'm guessing that some people at the table will say that living a meaningful life means a big vision and an ambitious program.

Others will say that for them it means finding meaning in small, everyday activities.

For others, it may mean being ready to act when opportunity knocks.

This coming Sunday I'm scheduled to fly to Israel for a short stay (less than a week). 

You know, when you live in a Jewish community like Baltimore and word gets out that you are going to Israel, you start receiving phone calls from random people asking if you have room in your luggage to take something to someone living there - it could be medication, or a document, or even a pair of shoes. Since the standard luggage allowance is one checked bag, my general response would be yes to the small things and regrets to the large ones.

Now, I found out that the hotel where I'm staying has hundreds of refugees from the South. This includes over 100 children.

So I phoned up the hotel manager to ask what I could bring for them, and he couldn't think of anything.

So my first instinct was to wait until I arrive and assess the situation.

But on Tuesday this week, the idea came into my head to be more proactive. Surely those kids (and their parents) are going bonkers - imagine being in their situation - in a hotel far from home, no school, no playground... 

I asked my niece who lives there to investigate for me and she confirmed my suspicions.

So on Tuesday night and Wednesday I sent out a emails to a few people inviting them to help me fill a few suitcases with toys and activities for these kids.

Yesterday our front porch started filling up with packages. We now have three extra suitcases full of Rubik's Cubes (check out this new one), stuffed animals, coloring books and crayons, and so on. 

Some people sent cash donations, which I will take and spend in Israel at local toy stores.

What I'm planning is hopefully a "normal" thing that a person does — when there is a need, we look for ways to help. But it would not be possible without the participation of all these partners. So thank you from the bottom of my heart for empowering me and entrusting me to go on this mission.


(It is not too late to participate in the mitzvah - just use the above link.)

Two more questions for the table:

Does a meaning in life always involve other people?
Does it need to be meaningful every day — or is it about the big picture? 


 
Shabbat Shalom,
 

Alexander Seinfeld


PS - I'm planning to post short updates on Instagram, you can see the first one here.

Friday, November 03, 2023

Alone But Not Lonely?

Table Talk from the desk of Rabbi Alexander Seinfeld
November 3-4, 2023 • 20 Mar Cheshvan 5784 • Vayeira (Gen 18-22). 
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Happy Anniversary shout-out to Amy and Lawrence - 13 is the gematria of AHAVAH!




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Here's a good opening question for your table:

The Torah famously says that every human was created "in the image of God."

Question: 
What in the world does that mean?

To work toward an answer, let's make a counter-point to last week's troubling message.

Every Jew knows that to be Jewish means to feel different and sometimes - as a Jew - alone in the world.

But as long as we have each other - a Jewish community - aloneness doesn't need to mean loneliness.

Moreover, weren't there Germans and others 
during the Holocaust who did the right thing? How about today?

Some of these friendly voices are popping up on youtube comments and other social media
:

  • I stand with Israel God bless Israel
  • I admire Israeli people, they talk humbly, calmly
  • I'm a South African and support Israel
  • As a Korean, I strongly support Israel
  • I love and stand for Israel
  • God bless the IDF, Jai Hind from India

Question for your table: do these voices help, or are we - despite them - pretty much alone?

The most basic answer to my original question up top - what does "image of God" mean? - is that every day you have ethical or moral choices to make. It seems to me that social media voices like these make the world feel a bit less lonely.

But then how can you know you're on the side of what's right? 


"If a Jedi walks the path of the dark side, the dark side is always in their heart." - Yoda


Shabbat Shalom,


Alexander Seinfeld


PS - If you click on the image above, you'll find an intellectual video that will appeal to some; others might prefer this short but sweet one.




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Friday, October 27, 2023

Come On and Let Me Know...

Table Talk from the desk of Rabbi Alexander Seinfeld
October 27-28, 2023 • 13 Mar Cheshvan 5784 • Lech L'cha (Gen 12-17). 
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This week's first question for your table is a question that I've heard numerous times this week.

It's also 
one of the toughest questions I've heard in a long time...

What do you do when you find out that someone you thought was your friend isn't really your friend?

Do you try to save the friendship or do you walk away?

How about when a place you thought was safe becomes less safe....

 
Jewish students locked in library during pro-Palestinian rally at Cooper Union
 
Pro-Palestinian students project anti-Israel slogans on George Washington University library ... https://forward.com/fast-forward/566853/george-washington-university-anti-israel-projection-library/
 
 
Outraged Jewish NYU student calls out university leadership for antisemitism on campus ... https://www.foxnews.com/video/6339710520112
 
Outraged Jewish NYU student calls out university leadership for antisemitism on campus ... https://www.timesofisrael.com/michigan-state-university-apologizes-for-showing-hitler-on-jumbotron-at-football-game/
 
A Stanford instructor called Jewish students colonizers and downplayed the Holocaust ... https://www.cnn.com/2023/10/13/us/stanford-instructor-jewish-holocaust-comments-reaj/index.html
 
 
Drexel investigating arson at Jewish student's door amid Israel-Hamas War
 
Israeli student attacked with a stick outside Columbia University library ... 
 
Swastikas and a Nazi slogan were graffitied in dorm at American University.
 
UC Davis faculty member makes  social media post that threatens Jewish journalists, children ... https://www.kcra.com/article/uc-davis-faculty-member-social-media-post/45591044
 
NYU student who ripped down Israeli hostage posters interned for the ADL 
 
U of Vermont ‘vigorously denies’ fostering an antisemitic environment on campus, amid federal investigation ... https://www.jta.org/2022/09/15/united-states/u-of-vermont-vigorously-denies-fostering-an-antisemitic-environment-on-campus-amid-federal-investigation
 
Jewish-owned SF ice cream shop vandalized, tagged with pro-Palestine graffiti
 
Richmond, CA City Council votes to condemn Israel of “ethnic cleansing”
 

‘Not safe anywhere now’: American Jews are flocking to gun training classes

 

Question for your table: Should Jews stay or should we go?


Shabbat Shalom,
 

Alexander Seinfeld


 
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